And what of the decision to stop homeschooling and for your child to return to mainstream? Whose decision is that to make?
At first glance this might seem like an obvious question, but it may surprise you to know that the first one to sow the seed in both arenas,
is quite often the child!
Over the past almost 2 decades of being intimately involved in home education, both as a family whose two daughters were homeschooled throughout, as well as as a curriculum provider, privileged to regularly interact with parents who are seeking advice on how to start, I have become aware of a growing “pressure” – again in both arenas – coming from children.
Obviously, we need to include our children in the discussion and afford them the chance to be heard. Notwithstanding this however, it is my firm belief that the decision to start-, or not to start-, or for that matter to stop- homeschooling, must ultimately rest fairly and squarely with us as parents.
Following are my three, very brief reasons for holding this belief:
Firstly, children (and here I include teenagers), have a limited perspective on life. And even though you may argue that teenagers have more perspective when compared with a primary school child, the reality is they still do not have anywhere close to that of us adults and as their parents.
Secondly, we as parents are accountable and answerable before God for the way that we raise our children. This encompasses what we permit and don’t permit them to do.
Thirdly and lastly, in every other important aspect of a child’s life, parents make the call; therefore how much more when it comes to starting or stopping homeschooling?
And once the decision has been made – whichever way the decision falls, there’s no guarantee that it will be met with eager acceptance by our children! But bearing in mind that we as parents are committed to acting in the best interests of our children, we have a clear scriptural directive in Ephesians 6: 1-3 that applies…
1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2 “Honour your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—
3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
I am acutely aware that making the decision to start homeschooling – or if it comes to it, to decide to stop homeschooling – can be an agonising one. I really hope and pray that what has been shared in this post, will help you separate off the distractions, deceptions and divisions; and allow you to properly prioritise your thinking.
Please know that we would love to try and help you with your planning in any way that we are able.
May God Bless you and give you wisdom and discernment for the journey that lies ahead.